Motherhood, in all its wonderful, God-ordained glory, plops us into waters way over our heads.
This isn’t a bad thing, necessarily; it can drive us to our knees in deeper dependence on God. But it can also drive us to live with daily discouragement or incessant insecurity, unless we learn how to live as confident, secure moms, and grasp what’s at stake if we don’t.
The truth is, every child, including yours needs a confident mom.
Here are some ways lack of confidence hinders our parenting:
We Constantly Battle Fear
Worry is not the same thing as concern. Worry is driven by fear, which has its roots in insecurity; concern is driven by care, which has its roots in confidence.
Children raised by insecure, fearful moms are likely to become insecure and fearful, too. They will hesitate to try new things, and feel the need for perfection when they do. Their childhood sense of adventure may be thwarted, and they’ll be less likely to develop resilience, which comes only when a child tries, fails, and learns to try again.
Psalm 16:5 "LORD, you alone are my inheritance, my cup of blessing. You guard all that is mine."
We’re Easily Swayed
In parenting, consistency is crucial, but when a mom lacks confidence she is easily swayed. Confidence enables us stand our ground when we’re tempted to cave under pressure. It’s not always easy, but taking the harder, better road comes with parental rewards.
Confident moms are consistent moms--and it’s much easier to be consistent if your parenting is covered in prayer. Make decisions out of prayer, not pressure.
We’re Constantly Overwhelmed or Under Utilized
An over-committed schedule is often an indication of an under-confident parent.
Lack of confidence leads us to say “yes” when we should say “no”. Insecurity makes us people pleasers, rather than God-pleasers. As a result, we forfeit boundaries necessary to live a balanced life.
If we allow insecurity to dictate our decisions, we are just as likely to feel under-utilized, as we are to feel overwhelmed.
Before making any new commitments, think through the implications for you, and for your family.
We Derive Our Significance Through our Child’s Performance or Popularity
Take note of your emotional response when your child fails to live up to your expectations--or exceeds them! Be honest enough to ask, “Am I looking to my child to validate my worth?”
No mom is confident on her own. Motherhood is such a great responsibility but God promises us to provide the confidence we need through Christ. All we need to do is ask.
"I can do all things through Christ who gives my strength." Philippians 4:13
"Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God." 2 Corinthians 3:5
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